What we do and what we don’t do

(585 words – 3 minute read)

Trauma resolution, stress management, pain management. These are some of the things we do. They all have certain things in common which we will try to describe here. And because a client is not a passive recipient but rather an active participant, he or she needs to know what is going on for therapy to work.

What we dealing with in a session are troubling incidents or feelings, something you have but don’t want. A troubling incident or mood is something that persists when it should be moving on.

Sometimes I feel depressed and it’s like a cloudy day. The clouds roll in and that’s OK. Even here in New Mexico it isn’t always sunny, but “a storm doesn’t last the whole day” as Lao Tzu says in the Tao Te Ching, and I know it will soon pass so it’s not a problem.
But when a condition persists, it becomes a problem. We give them names like Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Major Depressive Disorder (MDD), Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) and so on. But its all the same thing, something we don’t want that won’t go away.

In Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) conditions are describes as either being as a result of depleted energy or congested energy. By far the majority of conditions are as a result of congested energy. The feeling of something being tight, stuck, heavy or unmoving.

We used to use something called a Clarity Meter to detect congested energy. This congested energy or electrical charge is reflected in the movement of the needle on the Clarity Meter: If it is stuck, tight or twitchy, something is wrong and approachable. When the condition is resolved the needle is relaxed and floating around in a easy manner. That way we could tell when we had effectively cleared the troubling incident.

Now, maybe because we’ve been at this a while, we don’t need to use a meter anymore. What’s going on can be seen in a person’s speech and body language: Tense muscles relax, breathing opens up, “It feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders”. Stuff like that.

So how do we get from tense to relaxed about something? The first thing is to get specific. “I feel awful” is too general. “Ever since my mother died” is specific and something we can work with. EFT Master Maggie Adkins, our EFT mentor, used to say: “For results that are terrific – be specific”.

So, to get specific, we may list all your unwanted pains, sensations, emotions, attitudes, beliefs, conclusions, decisions intentions and evil purposes. Then we know what we’re dealing with. There may be ten or a hundred things.
Each of these items originated in an incident. Something happened, and after that you always got sad when you ate bananas.

Next we run the excess charge off of each of these incidents, one by one; and, when we’ve handled an offending incident, instead of it sticking out like a sore thumb in your life, you might say of it: “Oh that! it doesn’t bother me any more” and you may even forget that it ever did. That’s a good session.

There are several different ways to run the excess charge off of an incident. It’s good to have a choice. What works for one person may not be the right approach at the right time for another. One size does not fit all.
And each of these different therapies is worthy of a separate posting.

Hope this helps.